Have you ever felt (literally) like people were talking about you behind your back? I’m sure you have. Everybody has experienced being gossiped about at some point in their lives. And that’s not even horrible or anything – people just like to talk. But what really matters is how much it means to you.
Nowadays – living in a very superficial society – we are used to being criticised about nearly everything (outfit and look, personality, ambitions, chances we go for, ideas, individual approaches, bravery). But even only by listing a few of these things it becomes obvious already that they’re actually positive things! It’s a good thing to be ambitious, brave, yourself and have great ideas about your life. Obviously!
And still so many of us get criticised for doing exactly that – thinking ahead and being ourselves. But you know what? So often, those people are just jealous – really! Sometimes they don’t even notice themselves that they are – but they subconsciously wish they could achieve more or express themselves better than they currently do. And yes, this sounds like one of those cheesy, over-cited phrases you hear from psychologists or your best friend. But it’s true. It simply is. And this is by far not the only take-home message I want to give you here:
- Human beings are competitive. So, there will always be people begrudging you your achievements – because they wish they were their own.
- People like to talk – let them talk. You can’t prevent it from happening, so you might as well just accept it. But don’t give it too much meaning – give it perspective instead: Because who cares? You’re not the centre of everybody’s universe so, they probably don’t even care as much as you might think. Furthermore, if you prevent yourself from growing and progressing because you’re depending on other people’s approval, that’s just a shame and waste of your energy!
- Gossiping only lasts a few days maximum (if even that long), don’t let those few days mess with your long-term plans.
- You will never be able to please everyone so, stop trying. Even if you were getting close to perfection – there will be somebody disagreeing and judging.
- Perfection doesn’t exist – so, stop chasing it. Even the most “perfect” people you think you know have their flaws (sometimes even bigger than yours).
- Believe in what you’re doing – even if you were the only person seeing the point in striving for your goals – that’s one person already (the most important person in your life – yourself)
“You become what you think”
- Get to know who you really are – spend time with yourself (schedule it in if you want), because this will help you build the foundation/base to your success. You need to know what (who) you are working with!
And finally, go and find like-minded people. There are people out there who like you just the way you are and support you in your goals and achievements! If you feel like you don’t have anyone like this, go searching! There are so many possibilities with the world wide (very wide) web nowadays, groups of people in real life – being passionate about a certain topic (even doing meetings), and so on. Once you don’t try to please everybody and just start being yourself – you might get to know some very different people (and also lose some fake friends – nothing to pity). You’re on this planet only once (as far as we know) so you might as well make the best of it! Go, reach your highest potential!
And let me know how you’re doing and what experiences you’ve had with overcoming personal insecurities – can’t wait to hear of your progress (or troubles)!