When we look at ourselves in the mirror we hardly ever see perfection – we see ourselves with all the beautiful assets but also all our flaws. And that’s the same for everybody. Because nobody is perfect!
A flaw is “a mark, blemish, or other imperfection which mars a substance or object” according to the Oxford Dictionary. So, by this definition the word appears to be very negatively associated – even though all it essentially says (in our context with our appearance and personality) is, that a flaw is a sign of imperfection. It isn’t the same as ugly or disgusting – just not quite perfect. And honestly, there simply is no such thing as perfection regarding human beings. Nobody is perfect on the inside and nobody is perfect on the outside – like perfectly perfect. We all have our flaws and little imperfections – and you know what? That’s a good thing! How boring would this world be if we were all perfect? Our flaws provide variety, they make us unique.
So, instead of saying we’re all imperfect – I would rather like to call it different. Because the rage of variety is so wide, that it makes us all unique. There is never a second version of yourself on this planet – you’re the only you in his world. Isn’t this incredibly awesome? The combination of all your assets, personality and flaws is inimitably! So, instead giving yourself this hypercritical look when standing in front of the mirror (because of your messy hair, your crook nose, your freckles or even your attitude, or whatever really) try to see them as what they are – something that makes you different from other people, something that makes you special.
And I think at this point it’s truly important to understand that those flaws don’t need to be beautiful (in the usual (by society implemented) sense of the word). They aren’t just small things contributing to your overall look or personality – little parts of a puzzle – which in total is beautiful. Just the way you are! Therefore, be proud of them because the make you who and what you are! And honestly, if you get mocked about some of those things – most of the time appearance-related things – feel free to completely ignore those people. Because most of the time, they’re insecure about the same kind of issues they’re pointing the finger at in your case. Unconsciously, they show you exactly what they’re personal insecurities are – because what kind of things do we notice the most? Things we spend the most thoughts on. And therefore, you can give a shit about what those people say – don’t get on the same level. Let them deal with their own (obviously serious) issues first. Be smarter and accept yourself the way you are! And once you get to this point where you feel good about yourself (in total), it really shows on the outside as well. What an awesome side effect! Not only do you feel better, but it also makes you look even better – never underestimate the glow of contentment and happiness!
So, next time you stand in front of a mirror and see things you dislike – try to see them differently, try to see them as something that completes your picture (the special and unique you). Of course, I don’t ask you to be super happy about that soul-sucking, monstrous pimple on your forehead… but that one will disappear eventually (like most acne over time) and is nothing you should give too much meaning too anyway. Look at those beautiful eyes instead! You are beautiful.
I would love to know what features you have discovered and learnt to like about yourself by now so, leave a comment or send me a message. I read them all! And it always makes me happy to see your confidence grow.