I’ve stumbled upon this quote recently and I wanted to share it with you so badly, because sometimes we just need to hear the truth:
“You can be the ripest, juiciest peach in the world, and there is still going to be somebody who hates peaches.“
(by Dita Von Teese)
We’re wasting so much precious time and energy on being liked by others and trying to impress the people around us – while all we should actually be busy doing is simply being ourselves! And as obvious as it sounds (and I’m sure you’ve heard it many times before), we should all stop caring so much about what other people think about us. I think, definitely the majority of us (including me sometimes) is guilty of paying way too much attention to how we’re perceived by other people. Paying attention is a good thing in some ways – it’s always useful to know how best to interact with people depending on the person, the circumstances and the situation. But by caring too much, we can easily tilt over to the downside of it. Because if we’re giving too much meaning to what other people think and sometimes even subordinate our own feel of self-worth – it’s not beneficial anymore, it’s rotting our roots. And we don’t want that. Not really. You don’t want that.
So, in order to keep this little (or big) plant (that’s you) alive and happy – let’s start to challenge people’s perceptions. Because they’re all human beings themselves after all – and every opinion is influenced by feelings and sometimes personal issues. And I think this fact on its own already puts an opinion as such into perspective. Because an opinion is not objective and therefore the truth – it’s a sentiment paired with experience and perception.
Point two, people care way less about you than they care about themselves! You’re not the centre of their universe – whether this is sad or reliving news (or no news at all) to you, be conscious of this fact. People are so busy living their own lives and dealing with their own everyday problems and personal issues – they might find you an amusing or interesting topic to talk about at this very moment, but shortly after they will go on with their own life and not really waste a thought about you anymore. And I feel like being aware of this fact has helped me a lot to actually care a little less about other people’s opinions.
After all, life should be fun (most of the time) and you should be living it your way – and constantly worrying about what other people might think of you or your actions won’t help you at all – on the contrary, it will hold you back. But we don’t want to get stuck – we want to grow and progress in life, right? So, don’t give a f*** a little more often. If it feels right to you, just go for it!
And yes, you can totally rock this.